It happens a lot, particularly in the States. You are feeling awful for no apparent reason, wondering if you wouldn't be better off dead. So you hie yourself off to a psychiatrist, who prescribes pills, or to a psychologist, who gives you training in counteracting depressive thought patterns. And you feel better, or you don't.
The problem with both the pills and the thought-pattern training is that they concieve of the depression as something that is wrong with you, something in your skull. If your attitude could be adjusted, you would become “functional” again.
And that's as far as they want, or perhaps are licensed, to take you.
I am not licensed to do anything grander than driving, but I say that it's not all in your head. The solution isn't replacing an unpleasant illusion with a pleasanter one. People are what depresses people, and you should figure out who is making you miserable and do something about it. A little experimentation may be required. You may cause pain to others and yourself, and you may find that it's not the first person you think of who causes the trouble. But only breaking or reconfiguring your relations to the other social animals in your life will get you out of the helplessness that is the root of the condition. Painting the cell walls a brighter color won't do it.
(Follow-up remark, May 10: Of course these suggestions are not to be taken dogmatically as the exclusive, guaranteed road to happiness. “Experimentation” means: use the scientific method. Try something and if it doesn't work, stop and try something else. Be ready to test founding assumptions. When possible, have a back-up plan.)
I don't want to depress you or anything, but I think this is pretty lousy advice. After the depressed person breaks ties, one by one, with all friends and relatives, looking for the depressogen among them, and ends up alone, and still depressed, what would you suggest as the next move?
This may be the craziest thing I have ever read.
The only thing you can really change is yourself, your thinking patterns etc. Other people can't make you feel anything. Although there may be occasions where it is wise to break off dysfunctional relationships, this will NOT solve the depression, as the depression is related to the way you think about the situation. Remember, you are responsible for you! Have a great day, Brad Cork www.improvingpeople.com.au
“The only thing you can really change is yourself, your thinking patterns etc”-- an example of the model with which the post was meant to disagree. Such talk sounds like empowerment (“you are responsible for you”) but counterbalances it with solipsism. Let's have some reasoning about all this; the “advice” is to be taken, if at all, with a grain of salt, but the purpose is to raise questions about a widespread model of affective functioning.
I was saving this to write about (and may still do that), but I found this essay interesting: http://3quarksdaily.blogs.c...
Here is the craziest thing I have ever read, which I just came across today:
http://gawker.com/news/mone...
Well I'll say this: this piece by H Saussy certainly acquires a different meaning once you figure out that it's written about his relationship with Ted Turner.
Holy Argentina, that Turner-Butler link sure cleared my blockage.